For Those Experiencing Infertility

Please know that infertility is not your fault. There may be things you can do to increase your chances of conceiving, but you are not to blame for not being able to conceive.

Infertility it not a sign that you are not ‘meant’ to be a parent. You are deserving of children and infertility has no fairness.

You get to choose what you are willing to put your physical financial, and emotional well-being through. The choices of whether to pursue fertility treatments, surrogacy, or adoption are deeply personal and not not reflect the intensity of how much you want to have a child.

There is nothing wrong with you if you find it very hard to see pregnancy and birth announcements or to interact with others who have babies and children. Your feelings are so common and they do not reflect anything bad about your character or your caring for others.

You do not owe anybody information about your fertility. When others ask questions, you do not owe them answers about whether you are currently pregnant, what you have tried, and what your plans are. You can state that you prefer to not discuss it and that choice should be respected.

There is no right way to feel. You may feel disappointed, hopeful, angry, excited, grief-stricken, to name just a few emotions. You may feel up and down or experience conflicting emotions all at once. All your feelings are valid.

Secondary infertility is painful. It is not helpful to hear ‘at least you have a child’ when you are longing for another. Your feelings are 100% valid.

Infertility can been lonely, but you are not alone. 1 in 6 people have personal experience with infertility. We are here to offer compassion and support.

If you're navigating the complexities of infertility and looking for support, our Psychotherapy Services can provide compassionate and understanding care. You don't have to face this journey alone; help and support are available at the Well Parents Centre.