Postpartum Myths
We’ve compiled a shortlist of postpartum myths we wish everyone understood. Read it for yourself or share with others who may benefit from learning the truth about postpartum mental health!
Myth #1: Postpartum mental health problems can only happen to mothers
Fact: Postpartum mental health problems can also affect partners. While biological mothers are most at risk, male and female partners, as well as adoptive parents are affected. Check in with your partner.
Myth #2: Depression is the only postpartum psychological problem to look out for
Fact: Some studies have found that anxiety disorders are just as common as depression in pregnancy, and may even be more common than depression in the postpartum period. Psychotherapy can address these issues.
Myth #3: The term postpartum refers only to the first few weeks after birth
Fact: While ‘postpartum’ may technically refer to the first four weeks after pregnancy, experts now consider the whole first year when discussing mental health problems related to bringing home a new baby.
Myth #4: Having scary or disturbing thoughts about your baby means you’re going crazy, a bad mother, and automatically going to harm your baby
Fact: Most, if not all, parents have thoughts of bad things happening to their baby, including being the one to do the harm. If these thoughts cause distress and are inconsistent with how you would act, then you are not going to act on these thoughts. It does not say anything about you and your role as a parent.
Myth #5: There is a right way to parent
Fact: There is no right way to be a parent. If there was, there would be only one “how to” handbook. Set realistic expectations for yourself, particularly in the early months.
Myth #6: You should be ready to have sex again by 6 weeks postpartum
Fact: There is no “normal” timeline, and readiness will be different for every person and every couple. It’s important to be open with your partner and find ways to connect that don’t necessarily involve sex. Prenatal and postpartum couples therapy can help you navigate this transition.
Myth #7: Sleep now because you won’t sleep after baby/Sleep when your baby is sleeping
Fact: Sleep is essential for good mental and physical health, but putting pressure on yourself to fall asleep and stay asleep for several hours is only going to make sleep more difficult. Focus instead on engaging in restful activities and asking for help from others. Baby & child sleep consulting provides strategies to help you and your baby rest better.
